Safety first

The predators of this world lurk in the places where vulnerable people feel safe.

According to Statistic Brain, which published its latest Online Dating Statistics in April 2017, the percentage of sex offenders who use online dating as a way to meet people is 10% in the USA.

There are no statistics for New Zealand, but there are 40 million in the USA and 4.7 million in New Zealand.

We hope that having a much smaller population, and MyKind not being a dating website for ‘hook-ups’ (casual sex), means the likelihood of creeps infiltrating MyKind is a lot less than10% here.

How does MyKind help keep you safe?

  1. All membership applications and identities are manually checked by a human (not a computer).
  2. People we have concerns about are not accepted as members.
  3. We do not share your personal details with anyone (read the Privacy Policy).
  4. You choose what details you share with others.
  5. We encourage you to ask someone you trust to go over your application and profile – 22% of people do this anyway.
  6. You can block people you don’t want to communicate with.
  7. If you have concerns about someone, show those conversations to someone you trust.
  8. We record all complaints involving inappropriate language and behaviour.
  9. Any member showing a pattern of inappropriate language/behaviour risks having their membership and access to MyKind immediately cancelled, and fee non-refundable.
  10. We do random ‘chat checks’.
  11. We offer you and your trusted adult/friend tips to help keep you safe.

Tips to keep safe

  1. Tell a trusted adult that you’ve joined MyKind. They’ll probably already know you’d like to meet that special person, and think it’s a great idea. Tell them about the people you chat to, what you talk about, and why you like those people. Your trusted adult will probably be very interested, super encouraging, and tell you if they think someone is a potential concern.
  2. Never tell anyone you meet online where you live, work, study or train.
  3. There’s no rush to meet. Take time to chat first and find out more about someone before you agree to meet them in person.
  4. When you do arrange to meet. Choose somewhere public like a café where there are other people.
  5. Tell someone the ‘who, where and when’. If you feel confident to meet a person face-to-face, first tell a trusted friend/adult. They should know the name of the person you are meeting, the location and time.
  6. Take a support person. You have every right to take a trusted adult to a first meeting/date. It would be courteous to tell the person you are meeting that your friend will be with you (so they know to look out for two people, not just one). If they refuse to meet unless you’re alone, don’t go.
  7. Don’t talk about money/income or expensive purchases. If someone asks, tell them you’re on this website to meet the right person, not talk about your finances.
  8. Never give anyone your bank account details or agree to loan money to someone you’ve not met. Even if they say they really need to meet you in person, but can’t afford to travel. The right person will never try to make you feel guilty.
  9. Never agree to bank money for someone. Even if they say you’ll receive millions in return – it’s a scam.
  10. We value friendship first, then potential dating. If you feel uncomfortable during any chat, stop! Contact your trusted adult (show them the chats too). You can block any person who makes you feel uncomfortable.

 

MyKind offers as much information as we can to help you keep safe on this website and out there meeting people face-to-face. However, we cannot be held liable for conversations on this website, or what may occur on a date.

Tips for trusted adults/friends

Whether you are a parent, brother, sister, or work in an organisation supporting a MyKind member, they have invited you on their important journey. Thank you for enabling them to try MyKind to find friends and maybe that someone special, and we hope you both get to celebrate the results!

However, predators prey on lonely men and women, teenagers, people with disabilities, people with money invested, and the aged.

They pretend they are someone who can be trusted, and trick people into believing they understand them more than anyone else, like a special friend. They may ask a vulnerable member to keep what they say or do secret.

You probably don’t need our advice here, but we offer it anyway. If there’s anything we’ve missed, please let us know.

  • Ensure you and the person you support understand the Tips to keep safe
  • Report any person whose language or behaviour creeps you out to MyKind.
  • For serious concerns where a person’s safety is at risk contact Police immediately.
  • Encourage your person to show you online who they want to meet face-to-face.
  • If you accompany them to a meeting/date, introduce yourself to their friend/date, and check that it is the same person whose photo you saw online.
  • If you and your person are comfortable, give them space and observe them from a distance.
  • If your person is comfortable meeting someone alone, ensure you or someone else knows who they are meeting, where and when. Encourage them to meet in a public place where there are other people.
  • After a meeting/date, encourage your person to tell you what they talked about, how they felt about it, and whether they want to meet again.
  • Be prepared to support them if there is no second date this time.